romance?

How can my parents who will be married for 39 years this april still hold hands and kiss each other? I can not comprehend how they still love each other after all this time. I also cannot understand how I grew up with such parents that are so in love, in fact not one member in my entire family is divorced. Everyone has had a long lasting, loving marriage. Yet I am so cynical when it come to love and romance. In fact what the hell is romance? because to me its just something from my parents generation. I feel like romance is as rare as needle in a haystack and love is as rare as a diamond in the.. You know where I"m going with this. (He point I am making is I, one who grew up with a man bringing home a woman flowers just because, and parents who did adore each other is more screwed than parents who ended in divorce. Before you jump me let me give my point of view. My parents gave me this completely unrealistic idea of how love is suppose to be. Now that I am a 23 year old woman I have learned all men suck and the love my parents have for each other does not exist in this generation. People lie, cheat whatever, not just men but woman too. I have my faults so do all the men from my past. Love has become like a business plan. People do not follow their gut or their heart, that world be as foolish as following a hunch in business. Love has become something that one weighs and measures the cost and pain ahead of time before they make the decision to follow through. No more sending flowers, notes, chocolates, putting in any effort for the person your care about. My father said he would have flown anywhere if my mother was there. My mother said she knew by the first date he was the one. Today that just doesn't exist. So thank you dad because you know what the fathers that show their daughters how bad can men suck are bad but the dads who show how good men are and just the men you know bad are pretty sucky too. In the words of my dear friend nicole marci "men suck.. Buy me a drink"

working girl

Now it is official, I am a working girl. Today I filed out paperwork and I'm in the system. I actually had a conversation about 401k's and vacation days and the big one salary. A year ago I didn't even know what a 401k was. Now I must meet my monthly quota, wear suits, and worst of all get up at 6am. I couldn't help but remember the days when I would dream about this. I would say "I can't wait to have a real job." I only thought about the money and enjoying my weekends off. I had no idea 9 to 5 was a made up term Dolly sang about and it isn't actually an average work schedule. I am so glad I went to europe when I did. Now I feel like I had the life experience not many people can have at a time I do not have to worry about mortgages or babies. Going to europe was my dream. When people would say what do you want to do when you grow up, or what's your dream, I would say "go to Europe." Now that it"s over I'm a little depressed. But I got to do it. For that I thank God for. Now that I'm a working girl I have no idea when my next vacation will be. II worry though. I worry I will fail. I worry I won't have any fun anymore. I worry I will loose myself in my work and can't have time to be me. I wish I could just go back to Europe.

Here I am sitting in JFK airport bar, with a glass of wine contemplating my life. I am about to embark on a trip that is an experience of a lifetime. One that I have been looking forward for months, no scratch that, my whole life. I just feel like my whole life is changing. I just graduated college, just broke up with Jeff, about to go on an amazing trip, when I get back - will be working full time. I can't help but wonder about this trip, am I crazy for doing this. Traveling to europe! I'm nervous I won't have fun, I worried about everything going wrong. I wish I knew the outcome. I wish I knew the outcome of my life.

Here I am sitting in JFK airport bar, with a glass of wine contemplating my life. I am about to embark on a trip that is an experience of a lifetime. One that I have been looking forward for months, no scratch that, my whole life. I just feel like my whole life is changing. I just graduated college, just broke up with Jeff, about to go on an amazing trip, when I get back - will be working full time. I can't help but wonder about this trip, am I crazy for doing this. Traveling to europe! I'm nervous I won't have fun, I worried about everything going wrong. I wish I knew the outcome. I wish I knew the outcome of my life.

Careers

College is the time for you to find yourself. I cannot tell you how many times I may have heard that or even said it myself. College provides you the chance to explore different hobbies, interests, and passions. My personal college experience I took classes I never thought in a million years I would take that lead me to a path I never thought I would be lead to. Yet as I approach my final days of papers, tests, and finals I feel no closer in knowing what I want to do for a living. I walked out of the library earlier today and thought to myself how cool it would be to be a professor. Your have a chance to research, travel, steady pay, job security, and work close to home. Then I realized an hour prior to that I thought how cool would it be to be a media planner or buyer. Last Monday I thought about going back to my dream of being a National Geographic photographer. Within a matter of one week I have considered being a National Geographic photographer, a professor, a writer, media buyer or planner, a wedding coordinator, photo editor for a famous magazine, a publicist, a manager of an art gallery, and a travel agent. There is absolutely no direction. This makes me wonder do most people just fall into their careers or do they find their direction in college or some form of educational experience. If they do just fall into it, how do they do it? Is it just by what random place hires you at any entry level position and you work your way up? Then what do you do if your first job is one that isn't for you but its good because it pays the bills? How do you find a career path you know will be right for you? Finally how do you continue those hobbies, interests and passions you developed in college when you were finding yourself? Do you just forget them because your a grown up now its time to pay the bills and take care of the family? That would be so sad. I hope I never stop taking pictures, writing, study the media, or developing different hobbies, interets, and passions.

Another ending, Another begining

In high school I always wrote a blog. That was so long ago blogging was considered new and I'm pretty sure it wasn't even called blogging yet. It's about time I start writing again.

I'm in my last semester of college. In a few short months I will be all on my own with very little direction. The only direction I have is to get a job, any job, just something to pay the bills. Like all milestones in your life this has a beginning and an end. The ending of my school career which basically represents my childhood and the beginning of my work career which represents adulthood. It is very scary. Yes, everyone goes through this, I am well aware of the common emotions one goes through however no one seems to have any strong words of wisdom to reassure me.

If no one can give me any help then I will be very happy to help myself. Here are some short term goals to give myself and this will provide some form of focus without overwhelming myself.

1. Go to Europe before you miss your opportunity.
2. Get a job, any job.
3. Do not worry about failing once you get this job. If the job make you unhappy stick around for a year to build your resume, then focus on what you want to do with your life.
4. Always remember first jobs usually suck... it won't be just yours.